Choose to Be Unoffendable

We live in a time when offense is everywhere.

Christians and non-Christians alike seem quick to take it, sometimes even looking for reasons to be offended. And worse, we’ve normalized something I call “secondhand” offense — getting offended on behalf of others, even when the offense wasn’t directed at us personally.

There’s no shortage of opportunities.

Politics, religion, parenting, sports. You name it. We’ve divided ourselves into tribes: conservatives and liberals, boomers and Gen Z, religious and irreligious. And instead of listening, or learning, we default to outrage. We take offense and jump into arguments online, hoping to prove a point rather than build a bridge.

But Ephesians 4:2 calls us to a different standard:

“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”

Humility says, “I don’t know it all. I don’t have all the answers. I’m open to hearing you out.”
Gentleness means we respond without attacking.
Patience means we’re willing to wait, even when the other person is slow to understand or change.
And we do all of this in love.

When we let offense linger, it turns into bitterness.
And bitterness opens a wide door for the enemy to whisper lies.
“They’re awful people and deserve to be punished.”
“They’re ignorant. I’m done with them.”
“I’ll never speak to them again — they’re cut off.”

Those thoughts fracture relationships, and not just with people, but with God too.
Bitterness poisons your spirit.

But Proverbs 19:11 says:

“A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.”

And the Amplified Bible makes it even clearer:

“It is his (a man’s) honor and glory to overlook a transgression or an offense [without seeking revenge and harboring resentment].”

That kind of restraint — that refusal to retaliate or stew in resentment — brings glory to God.
It reflects His nature.
It shows maturity, wisdom, and strength.
When we overlook offense, we’re walking as royalty. We’re acting like sons of the King.

The wise, those in right standing with God, walk in love and humility.
They guard their hearts.
They refuse to take the bait.

Because offense is a bait. It’s a trap.

When you choose to be unoffendable:

• You keep your heart soft where others grow hard.
• You stay grounded where others spiral.
• You build bridges where others burn them.
• You position yourself to grow, to lead, and to bring peace.

Jesus said, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God” (Matthew 5:9).

Peacemakers don’t live offended. They lead with love.

So today, choose to be unoffendable.
Choose to be grounded enough in Christ to let things go and love anyway.